Ira Trivedi is a best-selling author of India in Love. When not contemplating modern love, she can be found practicing yoga at Namami Yoga.
This article is written as part of a series called A Dummie’s Guide to Dating
– how to do french kiss for beginners.
The movies make it seem like the easiest and most natural thing in the world. The reality is a little different.
Kissing is an art form and like any other art form, it must be studied and practiced. It might take some time or even years, to get this art form perfected.
Art form aside, kissing is also important because a first kiss usually marks the end of dating and the beginning of a relationship.
How can you make that first kiss, that first impression, something to remember?
– Oral hygiene
This sounds like a banal and obvious point, but alas, I only wish it were. I strongly urge all dating boys and girls in anticipation of their first kiss to carry chewing gum, mints (strong ones, not Mentos) or any other convenient forms of mouth fresheners with you.
Indian food has a lot of onion and garlic, and a stinky kiss is no way to start a relationship. Along with oral hygiene, don’t forget lip hygiene.
It is no fun kissing dry, chapped, or cracked lips. Carrying a tube of Vaseline is not effeminate; on the other hand, it’s a good signal.
It makes her think that you’re serious about your lips, the kiss, and her.
– Let her kiss you first or maybe you can kiss her first too
I strongly believe that the girls should initiate the first kiss, but there’s no such written rule. Boys assume that girls are shy and so often make the first move.
Let me tell you, if she really likes you, she won’t mind making the first move.
A pointer for the girls here. DON’T be PRUDE. It is very 1975. If you like him and feel that a relationship is possible, that first kiss will mark your entry into the relationship zone, unless you want to be stuck in dating limbo forever.
If you make the first move, he won’t think that you have a loose character (and if he does think that, dump him right away).
He will instead admire your confidence. He will also know who controls the pace of the relationship. Here is step by step how to french kiss.
– Make it soft
This is more for boys than for girls. Don’t throw yourself at her, and DON’T act desperate by getting too intense too fast.
Be slow, be gentle, and be gentle. Start slow and soft and let the kiss grow over time.
– To close or not to close your eyes?
It is weird to have your eyes open. Close your eyes. The most beautiful things are not to be seen with the eyes but felt by the heart.
-Practice makes perfect.
Do what it takes to get the technique down like watching videos if you want. It will help a lot.
-When it comes to the tongue
Keep it in your mouth. Little butterfly touches, say more than an anaconda invading alien territory, on the tongue note. Make an impact with your subtlety, not with your saliva.
-To tilt or not to tilt?
This is not something that one thinks about, but it can lead to a disastrous and embarrassing head-on collision.
During the lift-off process, take a second to gauge which way his/her head is tilting so you can adjust yours accordingly.
-You don’t kiss with just the lips.
You kiss with your whole body. Every inch of you should be involved in that kiss, especially your hands.
Don’t just think about the 2B’s (boobs and butt) doing something creative. Stroke her hair, play with her ear lobes, touch her neck, and things like that.
-Keep him/her wanting more.
Stop just as it gets good. She/he will be pining for more.
– Be mindful
Enjoy every moment of it instead of focusing on being scared or nervous or thinking of what more you can do to get into her pants. Here we sum up the guide to french kissing, let us know how you liked this blog.
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