The first date of all dates has more ifs, buts, nervous glances, and expectations alike! And why not? It is after all the first and maybe even the only chance to be with that special someone who could be your sweetheart for the rest of your life and you definitely don’t want to ruin it.
But often, your excitement and eagerness to charm your date may play foul and ruin it, without you even realizing it, it’s you yourself who’s the real culprit with all those first date mistakes!
Here are the first date mistakes that you should know about.
1. Faking it.
Trying too hard to be someone you aren’t will only lead to revealing your ‘true’ identity by the end of the night and with that ruining any chance of future with the cutie on the other side of the table. So, the mantra is to be on your best behavior but don’t turn into somebody that’s totally not you.
2. Getting way too much comfortable.
You may be their exclusive date, but that doesn’t mean you should be too friendly as if you’ve known them forever. Learn the art of reading their reactions, if they are enjoying your company or not.
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3. Becoming an open book.
The aura of mystery around your date is what makes you want to meet your date a second time, so the same thing goes for you as well. Keep the mystery alive so that your date has something more to look forward to knowing about you; otherwise as it could also be one of the deadly first date mistakes.
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4. Assuming the world revolves around you.
There are much more interesting things than just yourself, trust me. So, if you don’t want them to keep looking into their phone but listen to you, talk about them as well.
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5. Taking an interview.
Ok you want them to be your bae but don’t go about taking their interview for that! Asking too many questions can be a put-off. Instead, ask them things that are open-ended so you both can talk about them and have a great conversation going.
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6. Getting too nervous.
You want them to like you and want the date to go well so being a little nervous is natural but when you are being yourself and having a nice conversation flowing, there is no need to get those sweaty palms. So, gather yourself and relax.
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7. Dressing up too flamboyantly or too casually.
Both are equally disastrous. If you dress up over the top, you will embarrass your date and similarly, if you dress very simply, your date could think you did not put in enough effort to look your best for them. So the key is to maintain a balance, keeping in mind the venue and the occasion.
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8. Expecting too much.
You are having expectations that always ruin your experiences. Expect nothing, and you may be surprised beyond them.
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9. Forcing in chemistry.
Do you want to know a secret first date mistake? Don’t rush! When things ought to happen they happen and if they don’t, they simply don’t. If you will unnecessarily touch your date or be suggestive, it will only lead your date to excuse herself for the washroom, leaving you to wonder why she didn’t come back.
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10. Bossing over.
You don’t want to come out as a fussy and bossy person just to show how confident you are. So, if she’s excited about a certain topic, you don’t need to spat at her because she’s plain wrong or persuades her to order shrimp only because you know it’s the specialty there.
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11. Being a pushover.
As much as you need to control your bossy attitude, you also need to be in the grip of your too accommodating nature. Just to save the evening and please your date, you definitely don’t need to agree with them on everything. If you don’t like shrimp, tell them so, only politely.
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12. Knowingly or unknowingly talking about ex.
You neither need to ask your date about their past relationships nor bitch about your own. The fact that you two are there on a date is a confirmation in itself that you have moved on.
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13. Over-complimenting your date.
Complimenting your date for a thing or two is fine; in fact, it wins you some additional points. But then, overdo it, and you will prove you are desperate!
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14. Showing your eagerness for a second date.
Showing genuine interest in your date is one thing, and being too eager and letting them know how badly they smite you is another. Making plans for your second date together right in the middle of the first date only makes you look too needy and blows off your charm. So, better keep that away for the end of the date or even later and keep the mystery and want alive.
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