{"id":6491,"date":"2016-10-04T10:34:33","date_gmt":"2016-10-04T05:04:33","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/?p=6491"},"modified":"2021-03-11T06:48:37","modified_gmt":"2021-03-11T06:48:37","slug":"love-at-the-workplace","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/love-at-the-workplace\/","title":{"rendered":"Love At The Workplace"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"yashodhara
\nYashodhara Lal is a Bestselling Author , Working professional and Zumba instructor. Her newest book ‘When Love Finds You’ is available on pre-order here<\/a>. Know more about her at yashodharalal.com <\/a>or find her on\u00a0Facebook<\/a>\u00a0or Twitter<\/a>.<\/strong>
\nI may not have the latest \u00a0statistics when it comes to love in the workplace, but since I married a guy who flirted with me in the office years ago (though he claims I started it) I guess I am<\/em> a statistic. Living proof that the office is a natural environment for relationships to blossom.
\nVery <\/em>natural. We spend more time there than anywhere else; it\u2019s where we derive our sense of identity; it\u2019s where we dress to impress; basically, it\u2019s where we\u2019re presenting our best selves, and working with other people in close quarters. Not to mention that it\u2019s where we can get provoked, where passions are high and sparks arise \u2013 or maybe, on the other extreme, you\u2019re so bored and disengaged, you need to make SOMETHING happen. Either way, it is the place to find love.
\nWell, that\u2019s putting it sweetly. It\u2019s ripe ground also for misunderstandings; unwelcome one-way attentions and out-and-out harassment; inappropriate flirtations, affairs, deceit, rumor-mongering, assumptions about how she\u2019s getting to the top (or he: but yeah, almost always she) and a whole lot of other entirely avoidable messes.
\nBut I prefer to look at the bright side, the stories that lead to the happily-ever-after. I was the boss of a young and enthusiastic team of twentysomethings. They worked hard, collaborated, fought, engaged at work, day and night. Out of that lot, not one, but two couples emerged who are now married and posting lovey-dovey pics on Facebook, looking like the perfect couples. And they wouldn\u2019t have found each other if it weren\u2019t for the workplace. I often sigh at their pictures \u2018Awww\u2026my babies!\u2019 I marvelled that I never cottoned on to their affairs \u2013 I thought I was a sharp boss. They tell me I was dense to have missed the signs.
\nThere are always signs. It\u2019s the sizzling chemistry when you interact that\u2019s not entirely invisible to those watching; it\u2019s how much time you choose to spend together beyond what\u2019s normally required for work; and oh yes, most tellingly, texting and whatsapping each other even when you\u2019re in the same room.\u00a0 Depending on the type of company you\u2019re working in, this kind of behavior could be frowned upon. Though now, generally folks seem less judgmental, as long as it\u2019s consensual; not adversely affecting productivity, and as long as there aren\u2019t reporting relationships involved because face it,\u00a0that\u00a0<\/em>performance appraisal is not going to be objective.
\nAll in all, it\u2019s how life seems to be evolving. It\u2019s a connected world, there\u2019s a thinning of the dividing line between \u2018work\u2019 and \u2018life\u2019. If you\u2019re single, it\u2019s just another way in which you might end up meeting the one. If you\u2019re committed, you\u2019re still fair game as far as Cupid-at-the-Office is concerned, so don\u2019t lose your head.
\nAnd yeah, watch out for those Whatsapp messages; one of which may pop up on your phone at the exact wrong time. It happened to Natasha, the badass boss in my new book.\u00a0<\/a>
\nIt could happen to you – When Love Finds You<\/a>.
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