{"id":6223,"date":"2016-07-13T16:06:04","date_gmt":"2016-07-13T10:36:04","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/?p=6223"},"modified":"2021-03-11T06:53:58","modified_gmt":"2021-03-11T06:53:58","slug":"fellas-and-first-impressions","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/fellas-and-first-impressions\/","title":{"rendered":"Fellas and First Impressions"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\nHi, it\u2019s\u00a0Niki.
\nAlways say meow instead of hello.
\nThe best things in the world are felines, chocolates, mermaids and beaches.
\n\u201cIf I had an empty head, as some folks say I do,
\nI\u2019d sweep out all the cobwebs and rent it out to you,
\nAnd have you fill it up with all the things you say and do,
\nThen I\u2019d offer twice the price, and rent it back from you.\u201d
\nLoathe him or love him, masterthinker on the ideologies of sexuality, Sigmund Freud\u00a0said, \u201cThe sexual life of adult women is a dark continent for psychology.\u201d He also\u00a0said that sex is a prime motivator and common denominator for all of us and that\u00a0human beings are sexual beings from the start. Agree?
\nDebate and debunk his ideals all you want, but come on guys, we all know that being\u00a0enchanted by the female form has been a fixation for society for centuries; not only do\u00a0men admire women, women also admire other women. But it\u2019s as sure as water is wet- men are hardwired to check women out \u2013 a primal instinct, if you may \u2013 and those\u00a0who say they don\u2019t \u2013 pfft. Lies.
\nAfter that loaded little intro, let\u2019s get down to the nitty-gritty of it \u2013 women, and the\u00a0effort and effect of first impressions on men \u2013 what is he thinking when he gives you\u00a0that smooth practiced once over and what is it about you that makes him go yay or\u00a0nay.
\nAppearances take effort okay, \u2013 whether it\u2019s the habitual quick swish of the eyeliner\u00a0or a more elaborate blowout and manicure, \u2013 and mind you, it\u2019s not just to appease the\u00a0opposite sex. But yes okay, date night requires that little extra rainbow dust to exude\u00a0that incandescent charm (secret\u2019s out, guys!).
\nSo question is, how much of it is noticed? What parts of your carefully conditioned\u00a0attributes are picked up on his radar and what is it about you that\u2019s a deal maker or\u00a0breaker? Wanna know? Here we go:
\nYour Smile:<\/strong> Yep, he notices your mouth \u2013 your face is your most expressive feature\u00a0and your attitude is communicated through the genuinity of your smile, – big smile,\u00a0you\u2019re friendly and easy going; tight smile, you\u2019re possibly shy and underconfident;\u00a0small smiles; you\u2019re maybe coy or a little \u201ccome hither\u201d; no smile, um, no thanks.<\/p>\n

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Your body:<\/strong> Yes the non-superficialist in anyone will never concur, but men notice build. Whether they prefer skinny to the bone or curvy to the throne, they assess that physical attribute.
\nAnd yeah okay fine, beauty is only skin deep and all, but we\u2019re talking about first impressions here \u2013 you can\u2019t seriously expect him to fall in love with your personality<\/em> in the first five minutes.<\/p>\n

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Your eyes:<\/strong> Tr\u00e8s important! They\u2019re like pools into the depths of your soul. A touch theatrical \u2013 but among other things, he does notice your eyes \u2013 too much eye make up? Beautiful lashes? Colour?
\nYour eyes give away maximum emotion, and eye contact during conversation is vital, it\u2019s where subconscious subliminal signals are given off.
\nFlirt with your eyes, girls \u2013 go old school, fluttering is cute, coyness is underrated and narrowing them, playful.<\/p>\n

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Your speech:<\/strong> voice, eloquence, accent, vocabulary, pauses, pitch and tone. A guy WILL notice the way you talk, – it\u2019s the most obvious form of communication and the way you express yourself is a definitive deal maker, breaker.
\nDo you sound obnoxious? Is your tone condescending? Do you laugh often? Are you soft and sweet? Do you use a lot of \u2018um\u2019 and \u2018like\u2019 \u2013 a tad flaky, don\u2019t do it. Do you talk fast, slow? Do you even listen?
\nHe will characterize you by you talk. Speech and voice are big giver-awayers on the constitution of personality.<\/p>\n

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Your boobs and butt:<\/strong> Obviously. It\u2019s in their biological programming. Do not delude yourself into thinking \u201cOh he\u2019s not like that\u201d. Guys fall into two categories \u2013 booty or bosom \u2013 either or, they will be doing that quick sweep over both.
\nWe\u2019re not all Kim Kardashian endowed so whether you\u2019re bold braving a little cleavage, modest and mysterious, or cladding that derriere in the skin fits, he is looking, checking, thinking \u2013 so be aware of how proudly or leaving-it-to-the-imagination you present them on the first date.
\nWhatever you do, keep it classy.<\/p>\n

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Your overall style:<\/strong> He\u2019s gonna notice this first. What you\u2019re wearing, how you\u2019re carrying it off and whether he likes it or not \u2013 an ultra skimpy dress on a first date? Doesn\u2019t matter if it\u2019s Balmain, its a little attention-grabby \u2013 and not just his. Jeans and a top? Casual, sexy.
\nYour personal style speaks volumes of you \u2013 whether you\u2019re high maintenance- brand-conscious, a comfortable girl next door, a retro hipster or boho chic. He judges instantly.<\/p>\n

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Shoes, make up and nails: <\/strong>He\u2019ll notice. Keep the footwear utilitarian please, we don\u2019t want no trippin\u2019over six inches. But hey, a little heel goes a long way \u2013 stilettos, wedges or kitten heels add height, and spruce up the sexy factor a notch. They also improve posture and lengthen them legs; he doesn\u2019t know this, but he will take in its mediated effects. It\u2019s totally cool if you\u2019re comfortable in ballet flats too though.
\nAnd ladies, please, for goodness sake, have presentable, non chewed, clean finger nails and no ghastly chipped remnants of last weeks polish. Such a turn off.
\nAs for make up, don\u2019t plaster on foundation till you\u2019re six shades lighter, – faux pas! Keep the face paint, er, enhancements, low key.
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\nYour attitude:<\/strong> Numero uno important, ladies. It may not be the first thing he notices,\u00a0but it is the most important. The poise and openness you radiate is quintessential.\u00a0Whether you are warm and friendly or shy and inexpressive \u2013 he will take notes.\u00a0There is absolutely nothing, nothing that is more attractive to a man than your\u00a0charismatic confidence.
\nNow go, exploit these to your advantage, oh, but remember mi chicas, don\u2019t overdo or\u00a0underplay it, and the best (even rendered) version of you is always you!
\nNow that you know how to create an impression, it’s time to UnSingle! Get the TrulyMadly app now.<\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Hi, it\u2019s\u00a0Niki. Always say meow instead of hello. The best things in the world are felines, chocolates, mermaids…\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":6695,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1853],"tags":[118,457,478,479,631,632,641,646,864,1015,1144,1146,1521,1564],"featured_image_src":{"landsacpe":["https:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/blog-22-1000x445.jpg",1000,445,true],"list":["https:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/blog-22-463x348.jpg",463,348,true],"medium":["https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/blog-22.jpg?fit=300%2C300&ssl=1",300,300,true],"full":["https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/blog-22.jpg?fit=1000%2C1000&ssl=1",1000,1000,false]},"jetpack_featured_media_url":"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/wp-content\/uploads\/2020\/08\/blog-22.jpg?fit=1000%2C1000&ssl=1","_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6223"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=6223"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6223\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6702,"href":"https:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/6223\/revisions\/6702"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/6695"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=6223"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=6223"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=6223"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}