{"id":5875,"date":"2016-06-14T12:44:03","date_gmt":"2016-06-14T07:14:03","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/54.169.255.162\/?p=5875"},"modified":"2021-03-11T07:01:41","modified_gmt":"2021-03-11T07:01:41","slug":"what-men-say-you-are-doing-wrong-when-dating","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/what-men-say-you-are-doing-wrong-when-dating\/","title":{"rendered":"What Men Say You Are Doing Wrong When Dating\u2026"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\nAvani is founder of LoveDoctor.in where she and other professional counselors connect to answer questions about relationships, love and sexual health.
\nGirls, we talk a lot about what the guys are doing wrong when they are on TrulyMadly, but in this post I am going to tell you what they say about you!
\nI know, I know, you don\u2019t think that you are doing anything wrong. But you may\u00a0have noticed that you get a lot more matches on any dating app than your guy\u00a0friends \u2013 why is that? Well, it seems the men are more adventurous and don\u2019t have\u00a0the same hang ups about \u201cdating\u201d as you do. So because there\u2019s so many of them I\u00a0get to hear about their experiences on the app just as much as I hear about yours.
\nThe biggest complaint that men make about women on dating sites: YOU TREAT\u00a0GETTING TO KNOW THEM LIKE YOU ARE CONDUCTING A JOB INTERVIEW!\u00a0You ask 200 questions to make sure they are right for you, and they feel like you\u2019re\u00a0more interested in a guarantee of job performance rather than getting to know who\u00a0they really are.
\nMen tell me that they feel overwhelmingly like all you care about is checking boxes.\u00a0(don\u2019t we as women want to be seen for all our qualities and not just a select few\u00a0like our beauty or bubbliness? Hmm\u2026)
\nI hear you when you say you have to ask those questions and be really careful\u00a0because you want to be safe. You don\u2019t want to waste your time with someone not\u00a0on the same page as you. But imagine you are in the same shoes as the guy you are\u00a0asking so many questions to. How would that feel, to be reduced to a set of criteria\u00a0instead of the glowing, wonderful, multifaceted woman that you are? Well, that\u2019s\u00a0how the guys feel.
\nWhat we all want in dating is that the person we are getting to know sees us – all of\u00a0us. This includes even our faults and our defects, yet still understands our beauty\u00a0and awesomeness. And no one wants this more than women. We dream of a date\u00a0that will be okay with how goofy we are, how we don\u2019t always look like a princess,\u00a0and how we sometimes have a bad temper.
\nSo why can\u2019t we do this for men? We could not be so critical and businesslike when\u00a0we get to know them and allow them to just be themselves, warts and all. After all,\u00a0people are imperfect, and the dating game makes us highly aware of those\u00a0imperfections \u2013 our date\u2019s and our own.
\nHere is what I want you to try for better conversations and better dates: Instead of a\u00a0list of questions that does on and on, and a huge set of qualities that a man must\u00a0possess to get your time \u2013 choose no more than three things that you will absolutely\u00a0not tolerate.
\nThese are things that you cannot adjust to under any circumstances. Other than\u00a0these three things – be as open you can to the men that cross your paths, and those\u00a0you meet on the app. They may not chat perfectly and say all the right things, but\u00a0odds are you are missing out on some really great men by treating them like future\u00a0employees instead of future dates.
\nWhen you allow men to show you their true colors without an interview, or an\u00a0agenda, you just might find someone that you like and have more fun in the\u00a0process. Now, go out and have fun!
\nKeep Loving –
\nAvani Parekh
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