{"id":1288,"date":"2015-01-14T07:45:36","date_gmt":"2015-01-14T07:45:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/?p=1288"},"modified":"2021-03-12T06:07:32","modified_gmt":"2021-03-12T06:07:32","slug":"dating-modern-warfare-3-power-struggles","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/dating-modern-warfare-3-power-struggles\/","title":{"rendered":"Dating: The Modern Warfare | The 3 Power Struggles"},"content":{"rendered":"

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\nShirin Rai Gupta is a\u00a0writer by the week, impulsive baker by the weekend and forever hungry! She worked with a bunch of newspapers, wrote for a couple of magazines and tried her hand at corporate sales before declaring digital marketing as the home for her creative impulses.<\/strong><\/em>
\nThere\u2019s a thin line between dating and relationships and it\u2019s curved awfully lot like a question mark. The only way to convert that little punctuation into an exclamation mark is to overcome the classic, scary and very rarely spoken about power games. If you\u2019re going to graduate from the School of Dating and get admission into the Relationship University, you need to get great marks and ace these games. Sort of like Katniss and Peta from the Hunger Games. Except not like them.
\nDating in 2014 takes just as much tact as is needed to pass a resolution in the United Nations Security Council. Finding love is one thing. Holding on to it is another and emerging victorious from the emotional minefield? A completely different thing all together.
\nPower struggle # 1: Who\u2019s going to call first?<\/strong>
\nCall me old fashioned but a text just doesn\u2019t cut it after a first date. Flowers aren\u2019t necessary, but do call. And don\u2019t even think about leaving your message for voicemail to pick up. But that\u2019s the thing: Who WILL call? If you\u2019ve been raised on a diet of Hollywood rom-coms like I was,you would have heard about the \u2018Two Days Rule\u2019. The guy, for some self important reason, wishes to leave the woman hanging for a good 48 hours before calling and asking her out again, even if he loved seeing her the night before. Well ladies, time to flip the game a little and catch \u2018em by surprise. Call. Yes, you do it. No, you\u2019re not going to seem clingy. You\u2019re not going to be \u2018that girl\u2019. You\u2019re going to do yourself a favour by eliminating those wasted hours of waiting and wondering, sometimes staring at the newest zit accusingly and constantly replaying the date in your mind to figure out what you may have done wrong. Take the power in your hands and call. Don\u2019t leave a message, you slave to technology! NO. Call. Say you had a good time (because if you didn\u2019t, you wouldn\u2019t have called) and ask him out if you want to. Be specific about when you want to see him, \u2018cos \u2018whenever he wants\u2019 is just never the right response.
\nPower struggle # 2: Why\u2019s she with me? I bet she\u2019s on the rebound.<\/strong>
\nMen. So many of you have self esteem issues that I sometimes wonder how you manage to walk straight without toppling over! If one more perfectly good man talks self deprecatingly because he feels that he cannot match up to the glitter that she always leaves around because she\u2019s just SO glam, I\u2019m going to have a seizure. She\u2019s with you because she likes you. Simple. If she\u2019s as gorgeous, smart and engaging as you say she is, she\u2019s probably spoilt for choice and she picked YOU to go dancing with. Which means that she likes you. Not her ex, not your best friend and definitely not the random at the edge of the bar you insist on being jealous of. Possessive is cute (sometimes). Cautious is wise (in the beginning). But Insecure is plain unattractive. It\u2019s possible to fall for someone who likes none of the same things, hangs with different circles and doesn\u2019t have the same idea of what\u2019s hot. Trust me. She won\u2019t run away the day she finds her brain-twin.
\nPower struggle # 3: I got the tab.<\/strong>
\nWhat\u2019s so sexy about always getting the tab? Why do people do the cheque dance? Why do some men feel obligated to pay on the first date and are ultimately happy to go dutch once she\u2019s definitely their \u2018girlfriend\u2019? Honestly, I don\u2019t know. But what I do know is that you\u2019re going to need to find your comfort zone and if you can establish it on the very first date. good for you. Just like with online shopping, you should be able to use whichever payment option you like. Without interest! Time and money may be the cornerstones of power as per every \u2018moral tale\u2019 you ever read, but when it comes to love, it\u2019s all about sustainability. You pay, let him pay, play rock paper scissors to decide who gets the tab this time or split it to the last decimal point for all it matters but just don\u2019t fret about it. The more you overthink this absolutely blah detail, the more nervous dating will make you.
\nIf you can work around these and find yourself still in like or love, you\u2019re ready to take it to the next level.
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