{"id":11884,"date":"2022-09-26T12:51:39","date_gmt":"2022-09-26T12:51:39","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/?p=11884"},"modified":"2022-09-26T12:51:39","modified_gmt":"2022-09-26T12:51:39","slug":"10-warning-signs-of-an-abusive-relationship","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/10-warning-signs-of-an-abusive-relationship\/","title":{"rendered":"10 Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship You Can\u2019t Ignore"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Everyone has different perspectives on different matters, and most of the time, it leads to arguments. Although arguments are common in every relationship, sometimes they can be <\/span><b>signs of an abusive relationship<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">However, signs of an abusive controlling relationship do not always need to be physical. Moreover, you or your partner might not even be aware of the abusive relationship fights.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Here are the most common warning signs of an abusive relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 id=\"10-warning-signs-of-an-abusive-relationship\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">10 Warning Signs of an Abusive Relationship<\/span><\/h2>\n<h3 id=\"1-ignoring-boundaries\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">1. Ignoring Boundaries<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Boundaries are an essential factor for a healthy relationship. Boundaries are the foundation of trust and make the relationship sane. However, disregarding boundaries can give rise to trust issues and can cause breakouts in the relationship.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The most common signs of ignoring boundaries are:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Expecting you to <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">be <\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">available when you are busy with other things.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Dismissing your opinion, speaking over you all the time.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not knowing what to talk about with your partner.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Making decisions on your behalf without communicating.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Ignoring boundaries can indicate that your needs and preferences are not as important as your partner\u2019s. Disregarding boundaries is a common warning sign of an abusive relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 id=\"2-controlling-behaviour\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">2. Controlling Behaviour<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While each area of controlling behavior may look different, it is mainly caused due to lack of trust and can mean that your partner doubts your ability to handle anything. Controlling behavior can be both physical and psychological. Often, controlling behavior mostly revolves around financial matters.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The most common signs of controlling behaviour are:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Refusing to accept blame.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pointing out every little fault of yours.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Making financial decisions for you.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not asking or considering your opinion.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Controlling behaviours are also <\/span><b>signs of an emotionally abusive relationship<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, and trust issues are the major cause of it. Moreover, controlling behaviour can quickly take a turn for the worse and can turn into an abusive relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 id=\"3-over-possessiveness\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">3. Over Possessiveness<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">While the idea of being with one another is cute and charming, but when taken to an extreme level can be harmful or even dangerous in a relationship. Over possessiveness can cause psychological issues and can give birth to both physical and mental abusiveness.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The most common signs of over-possessiveness are:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Bad temper and quickly reacting to everything.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Decides what you must wear.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Keeping track of phone calls and messages.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Emotionally manipulative.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Over possessiveness can give rise to anger and trust issues, and an extreme level of possessiveness can show <strong>signs of an abusive relationship<\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Don&#8217;t Miss This<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">: <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/friendship-is-better-than-relationship\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">7 Biggest Reasons Why Friendship Is Better Than Relationship<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<h3 id=\"4-keeping-secrets\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">4. Keeping Secrets<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Although relationships are built on trust, there are some things that are better left to be private. However, that does not necessarily mean that you should make everything secret. By doing this, your partner might get the idea that you are having an affair and are cheating on them. It is a fair assumption and can lead to abusiveness.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The most common signs of keeping secrets are:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being defensive in an argument and dodging questions.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Frequently changing phone\/laptop\/desktop passwords.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Not showing interest in most conversations.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Telling sugar-coated lies.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There can be various reasons why your partner might be keeping secrets from you, for example, embarrassment or shame about something. However, if you did find out there is a wall of secrets in your relationship, then it\u2019s time for a serious sit-down and calm discussion with your partner. Make sure the discussion will go calmly so that the anger will not get the best of you.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 id=\"5-gaslighting\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">5. Gaslighting<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is the biggest form of emotional abuse and is a term used to describe a situation where one partner convinces and manupulates the other and makes them doubt their own sanity and self-worth. Moreover, the person who has been gaslighted cannot even tell if their partner physically abused them or not.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The most common signs of being gaslighting are:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">An urge to apologize all the time.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feeling low or being pessimistic.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feeling of nervousness, anxiety, or worry around your partner.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\">Hiding your relationship issues from your friends or family.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Gaslighting is not a case that can happen by accident; it is done consciously. If you feel like you are being gaslighted, then you can talk it out with a trusted friend or can get professional help. Although there are various reasons for gaslighting, they all lead to the same <strong>signs of an abusive relationship<\/strong>.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 id=\"6-unpredictable-mood-swings\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">6. Unpredictable Mood Swings<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Although fights between couples are common in every relationship, unpredictable mood swings are not. Unpredictable mood swings can be seen in small arguments where one partner gets more worked up than the other on most occasion. The person can become sad, angry, or withdrawn, and this can cause physical and psychological abuse on a partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The most common signs of mood swings are:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Sudden change in appetite.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Excessive guilt.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Over possessiveness.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Always blaming external factors for their behaviour.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Unpredictable mood swings usually cause angry blow-ups and even physical abuse. The signs of mood swings are unpredictable, and it is for the best to consult a counsellor or therapist and not burden your partner with your unresolved mental health issues<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 id=\"7-physical-aggression\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">7. Physical Aggression<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It is not necessary that an act of aggression can only be shown by a physical touch towards a partner. It can be shown by looks, gestures and words. Moreover, smashing, punching, or throwing things are also considered as a type of physical aggression. If your partner does start to show signs of physical aggression, then the sooner you get help from a professional, the better.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The most common signs of physical aggression are:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Destroying or damaging property or objects.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Easily gets irritated.<\/span><\/li>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Physical or verbal abuses.<\/span><\/li>\n<li>Profusely apologizing but repeating behaviour patterns.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The signs of physical aggression are clear and need to be handled immediately with the help of a professional before it becomes signs of an abusive relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 id=\"8-refusing-to-say-sorry\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">8. Refusing to Say Sorry<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">There is not a single relationship without fights. However, if your partner refuses to say sorry, don\u2019t immediately consider yourself to be wrong. Refusing to apologize can showcase early <\/span><b>signs of an abusive relationship<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> based on the depth of the argument.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The most common signs of refusing to apologize are:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Being overworked on small arguments.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Pushing the blame on you.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Showing act of violence.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Gaslighting.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Refusing to say sorry can be a one or two-time thing, but if it starts to happen more frequently, then small fights can be turned into signs of abusive controlling relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><b>Related Post:<\/b> <a href=\"https:\/\/trulymadly.com\/blog\/toxic-relationship-signs\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">9 Warning Signs of a Toxic Relationship in 2022<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<h3 id=\"9-controlling-attire\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">9. Controlling Attire<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Picking out clothes for your partner is cute and cab be seen as a sign of a happy relationship. However, it takes a turn for the worse if your partner takes full control over what you should wear without caring about your preferences.\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The most common signs of controlling attire are:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Choosing outfits for you without considering your preferences.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Trying to control your finances.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Fake compliments.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Throwing you old outfits.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">It can be a type of possessiveness, and if not handled in time, then it can give birth to an abusive relationship and can cost you your whole freedom.<\/span><\/p>\n<h3 id=\"10-financial-control\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">10. Financial Control<\/span><\/h3>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Relationships can be controlled or manipulated in various ways, and too much of it can lead to mental breakdowns and can cause verbal or physical abuse. A partner might be controlling you financially and might be limiting your needs to fulfil theirs.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The most common signs of financial control are:<\/span><\/p>\n<ul>\n<li><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Taking control over bank accounts and cash.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Giving you a limited allowance or budget.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Feels entitled to your financial assets.<\/span><\/li>\n<li style=\"font-weight: 400;\" aria-level=\"1\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Spends your money without discussing it with you.<\/span><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Financial control in relationships can cause emotional and abusive arguments. Moreover, financial control is often done by gaslighting a partner.<\/span><\/p>\n<h2 id=\"conclusion\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Conclusion<\/span><\/h2>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">The signs of being in an abusive relationship might not be clear at the start, but as time progresses, they become much clearer and can break the whole relationship and can even cause psychological traumas.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Abusiveness can happen in all types of relationships, whether it be casual, serious, or long-term. If you feel like your partner is showing <\/span><b>signs of an abusive relationship<\/b><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">, then you should consider getting help from professionals or leaving the relationship.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Download the <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/trulymadly.com\/\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">TrulyMadly<\/span><\/a><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\"> Dating App for <\/span><a href=\"https:\/\/bit.ly\/TRULYM\" rel=\"nofollow noopener\" target=\"_blank\"><span style=\"font-weight: 400;\">Android and iOS<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"Everyone has different perspectives on different matters, and most of the time, it leads to arguments. 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